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Do Background Checks Make Internet Dating Safer?
March 5, 2007, 3:41 pm
Filed under: Love In The News

New internet phase posted in the StarTribune
Internet background checks tell all about a new love interest.I want to be clear I am not opposed to background checks on potential mates, but I think it is a mistake to place all your faith in these checks. Just because a person does not have a criminal record does not mean they are not a rapist, pedophile, or serial killer.

The article indicates, it is pretty easy to get that background check done on someone you meet from the Internet. What about the person you met in the bar last night? You know, that person you just met at the bar and had sex with on the first night? I know, the sex was great so they must be alright *smiles*

How do you know he/she is not a sociopath. After a few drinks they all look the same don’t they? By the next day it is too late you have already given your away the most personal information you have.

At least with the Internet you can spend some time getting to know someone on an intellectual level. Obviously if background checks are now required as standard internet meeting practise; the Internet had made no advances on its poor reputation as a risky place to meet people.

Until this form of meeting/introduction becomes an accepted norm people will continue exploit trust our personal trust issues as a way to take our money away. In fact, all you have to do is use your own common sense and the inner voice that is within you.

I have heard all the arguments: I can’t see what they look like. What if they are lying to me? What if they are married? I don’t really know anything about this person.

Think about it. If you are sitting there drinking all evening with a person, getting drunk having a good time. Chances are you are in a bar where the music is way to loud, you really have not heard a word the person has said to you. The end of the evening comes and you think, alright your place or mine because that is all you were looking for in the first place. How romantic. NOT!!!!!

So you decide to try dating through the Internet and you find out the person’s a creep and they won’t leave you alone. Now what? You are afraid to go out your door for fear of running into them. With the Internet its not too hard to get rid of them. Use your ignore button and spam bins work great. The Internet can actually be a safer way to meet people then the bar. At least your not jumping into bed with each other the first day you meet. I do believe background checks maybe a bit extreme, unless that person has given you cause for concern.

2 Great tips for meeting with someone you have met on the Internet:

  1. Always keep your logs of the conversation you had with that person. That is how you will find out about who that person is. What they say to you is who they are. If there are any discrepancies then you have nipped it in the bud before meeting. Looking for consistencies in conversation and determine what is sparking your intellectual connection with each other.
  2. Checking on someone is a good idea, a but there are ways that are less confrontational and will keep your money in your own pocket. The best background check is your intuition. Pay attention and look for inconsistencies and always, always meet in a public place until you have determined you want to give that person more access to your life (e.g giving out your home address

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