Rokman’s Hideaway


Feel the Love Because You’re Worth it!
March 4, 2007, 12:30 pm
Filed under: Love In The News

Some people are desperate to find love they can’t see it when it is in front of them. According to the Seattle Times actually Believing You Deserve Love is a common problem. No matter how many times some people are told that they are loved, some cannot see the reality of it.

The ability to reflect on and learn from our behavior and use this new learning to enhance our self esteem, communication and relationship skills is key to self-improvement and life long happiness.

Lets start with listening to yourself.

When you hear in your head this person does not love me even though they have said numerous times they do, you have to ask yourself why? It is as important to apply rational thought processes to our relationships as it is to our daily functioning in the workplace. We run thoughts and questions over and over in our heads all day long anyways. Why not use this method to solve problems at work and the problems in your relationship. At work problems are often more black and white (facts) than our relationships issues. We have to search within ourselves, learn to listen to your thoughts and reflections. If you have to write it down then do so.

Next is understanding what you are listening to.

Previously I mentioned writing down your thoughts. Why are you having these thoughts? How long have you had them. What is the likely root cause? Is it something that stems from your/their past? Is it just paranoia or both? Everything may seem to be alright on the surface but you have to dig down deep to get a true understanding. Maybe the reason you feel unloved comes from a cheating spouse or a partner’s behavior that makes you feel insecure. Other causes are abusive relationships from past or present. They could just be feelings of inadequacy but until you explore and recognize you will not be able to understand.

Finally we have the corrective measures.

Once you have listened to that inner voice and understand what it is telling you then you can move forward to corrective measures to repair the damage that you have been facing all of your life. If the reason you can’t feel loved stems from relationship(s) of the past then you have to realize that this is not your fault. They were the ones that had the problem. It was their lack of understanding of you and your needs. Cheating on a spouse or abusing them physically or mentally can and does lead to insecurities and emptiness. Move forward, continue to listen to those thoughts, understand them and change what you can to make it right for you.

Other great stories can be found at Love of Seduction

Fantastic and Interesting Reading on Self Help
Steven Covey: 7 Habits of Highly Successful People

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